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What is Grooming?

Grooming is the process by which an adult builds trust and emotional connection with a child — and often their family — in order to manipulate and exploit them. Online grooming typically involves flattery, gift-giving, shared secrets, and gradually pushing boundaries to normalize inappropriate interactions.

Why It Matters for Families

Grooming is designed to be invisible — children often don't recognize it as manipulation and may actively protect the relationship from parents who try to intervene. Understanding the stages helps parents identify warning signs before exploitation occurs.

Warning Signs to Watch For

  • 1Receives unsolicited gifts or money from an online contact
  • 2Has a new 'best friend' online that you've never met or heard of before
  • 3Keeps the new relationship secret or gets defensive when asked about it
  • 4The relationship escalates unusually quickly in emotional intensity
  • 5Starts using language or expressing views that seem out of character

What You Can Do

If you suspect grooming, do not confront the suspected predator directly. Document everything. Contact NCMEC and local law enforcement. Maintain a calm, supportive relationship with your child — they may feel shame, confusion, or loyalty to the groomer, and judgment will make them less likely to accept help.

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Related Terms

Online Predators
Online predators are adults who use the internet to target and exploit minors, typically through social media, gaming platforms, or messaging apps. They often use deception — pretending to be peers or romantic interests — and build trust through a gradual process called grooming before attempting to exploit children.
Sextortion
Sextortion is a form of online blackmail in which someone threatens to share sexual images or videos of a person unless they comply with demands — typically for more explicit content, money, or other favors. It can follow from a romantic deception or from hacking private images.
Catfishing
Catfishing occurs when someone creates a fake online identity — using false photos, a made-up name, and fabricated details — to deceive another person, typically to pursue a relationship or manipulate them emotionally. Catfishers often steal photos from other people's social media accounts to make the fake profile convincing.
Talking to Strangers Online
Online stranger danger refers to the risks posed when children interact with people they don't know in real life through social media, gaming, messaging apps, or online communities. Unlike in-person encounters, online strangers can easily conceal their true identity, age, or intentions.
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